USING PHYSICAL AND SEXUAL ABUSE

Hair pulling, biting, shaking, pushing, pinching, choking, kicking, confinement, slapping, hitting, punching, using weapons, forced intercourse, unwanted sexual touching in public or in private and depriving her of food or sleep

USING EMOTIONAL ABUSE

Insulting you in public or in private
Putting down your friends and family
Making you feel bad about herself
Humiliating you
Making you feel guilty
Being the one to define men's and women's roles

USING ECONOMIC ABUSE

Preventing you from getting or keeping a job
Making you ask for money
Taking your money
Not letting you know about or have access to family income
Demanding exclusive control over household finances

USING COERCION AND THREATS

Making or carrying out threats to do something to hurt you
Threatening to leave you, or to commit suicide
Threatening to report you to welfare
Making you drop charges

USING INTIMIDATION

Making her afraid by using looks, gestures, or actions
Throwing or smashing things, destroying property
Abusing pets
Dangerous driving
Displaying weapons

USING CHILDREN

Making her feel guilty about the children
Using the children to relay messages
Using visitation to harass her
Threatening to take the children away

USING ISOLATION

Controlling what she does, who she sees, what she reads, & where she goes
Limiting her outside involvement
Refusing to let her learn to drive, go to school, or get a job
Not allowing her to freely use the car or the telephone

USING JEALOUSY AND BLAME

Minimizing, Denying, Blaming
Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously
Checking up on where she's been or who she's talked to
Accusing her of infidelity
Saying the abuse didn't happen
Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior
Saying she caused it